At some point or another, we’ve all probably said something like “Me and John are going to the store.”
However, I’m suggesting it is better to use “John and I” instead.
Why?
The Emotional Impact
First, “John and I” and “Me and John” convey different tones.
Starting a sentence with “me” can give the impression of being self-centered (which, of course, you are not). Saying “John and I” is more courteous and puts the other person first.
Proper grammar also helps create a connection with others. It shows you care about communication, and that you respect others.
This is not just about being grammatically correct. It’s about conveying a sense of empathy and esteem. It’s a small change that can have a significant impact on how others see you.
The Professional Impact
Using “John and I” (or its equivalent) also has advantages in the professional world. Using correct grammar presents yourself in a good light, gives the impression that you care about communication and suggests that you are well-educated.
The Nitty-gritty
Now let’s get into the grammar. (Indulge me here. I used to teach English.)
“I” is a subject pronoun, and “me” is an object pronoun. In the sentence “John and I are going to the store,” “John and I” are the subjects and so the subject pronoun is used.
If you’re unsure about which pronoun to use, try using just the pronoun “I” in the sentence. If “I” makes sense alone (“I am going to the store”), then use “John and I.”
Think of this trick before speaking.
Exceptions and Flexibility
Of course, language is fluid, and informal speech often bends grammatical rules. If you’re with friends or family, correct grammar might not matter much. Still, using correct grammar in more formal or professional situations can make a difference in how people think of you.
And yes, language evolves and changes. It’s quite possible that “Me and John” will be considered grammatically correct (or at least generally acceptable) sometime in the future.
In the meantime, however, remember that language connects us all. Use it thoughtfully.
(In the interests of full disclosure, Chat GPT “wrote” the first draft of this article.)
